Monday, September 21, 2009

Our first post

Hi, we are Matt and Todd. We are a gay male couple who has been in a committed relationship for over 8 years. We have talked about having children almost from the beginning, and well now, it feels like the right time to start taking steps.

So far it seems a little intimidating and even lonely. "Traditional" families (what does that mean anyways?) are created in a much easier way and by people who are members of a club that we don't fit in with. And there is of course the issue of a same sex couple having children, which is still a social taboo to some, including Todd's Mother, who for the most part has been able to come around to his 'alternative' lifestyle and even embrace it.


A gay male couple having children is not something she (or others) have a very easy time accepting.

We however cannot get bogged down in what other people think. We have so much love for each other and for life. We want to share this and bring up a little being(s) with all we have to offer.

The draw is more than I describe, and frankly, no matter how big the hurdles, we must explore and move forward and experience everything in this journey towards becoming Dads!


  1. Hi Todd and! I remember our first post and feeling like we were entering a whole new world all alone before we found the blogs. Bill and I have said over and over again to ourselves and to friends, that without the information and contacts we've discovered via the blogs, we would not be as enlightened. There is still a lot of things we've done that we should have done differently, but that's all part of the experience, right? If you ever have a question or would like to bounce stuff off us, just give us a holler. You can also email me directly at

    Good luck with everything...have you picked a clinic yet?


  2. Good luck guys. I remember how daunted and overwhelmed we felt starting out over a year ago. There is loads of support out there in cyberville, just ask if you have any questions.